Mediators are specially trained facilitators. A mediator will work with you and your partner to assist you in resolving your dispute amicably. The mediator is neutral and does not give legal advice within the process. The mediator does not take sides or make recommendations.
Check to make sure that your mediator is accredited/certified by the Mediators’ Institute of Ireland (MII) and is on their website. Not all persons calling themselves mediators have recognized qualifications. It is important to be very careful especially in the area of family disputes.
Many family law specialists are now qualifying as mediators. Mediation is totally confidential and is very cost effective. Any experts required during the course of mediation have to be sourced outside the mediation and their advice brought back into the mediation by the parties.
At the conclusion of mediation if agreement has been reached heads of agreement are drawn up and then each party must go to a solicitor and have the agreement drawn up. The Solicitors will charge for this service and you should build that into your costs assessment. I can provide both the mediation service as a certified mediator on a private basis if requested or I can also review Heads of Agreement and draft the necessary separation agreement to give effect to your agreement, since I am a family law solicitor.
It is extremely helpful if you have a mediated agreement to bring it to a family specialist who has collaborative and mediation training, as they are more likely to look upon the agreement with sympathy and from a non-adversarial standpoint. while still ensuring that legal requirements are met. Thus their input is less likely to produce discord and more likely to promote accord.